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Becoming a mom is a life changing experience. Along with the instant love and all night snuggles (not to mention sleep deprivation!) you might also start noticing some changes in your relationships. You might start to find yourself drifting from childless friends or feeling isolated at home.
I’ve heard so many times that finding mom friends is like dating and its true! First, finding the gumption to leave the comfort of your sweats and getting out of the house can be hard when you are always so tired. And then when do you get out of the house it can be hard to put yourself out there, introduce yourself, and face rejection.
Does this scenario sound familiar?
You head to the park and see a mom with kids your age. You want to head over and introduce yourself but hear this little voice in your head that says, “She’ll think I’m a weirdo!” Maybe you do talk yourself out of the fears and head over to say hi but the conversation quickly fizzles.
This is SO COMMON!
Finding other moms with kids your age, similar schedules, and common interests is like hitting the jackpot. I can’t promise you won’t face the scene that I detailed above. In fact, if you are truly putting yourself out there I can almost guarantee it’ll happen more than once.
BUT what I am going to do is give you some awesome ideas of where to meet moms with common interests so that you can drastically improve your odds and meet your mommy soulmates.
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I know, I know. Above, I just described a complete fail above and it was at the park.
I assert that parks are still worthy of being on this list. You will ALWAYS find moms at parks. In fact, I have made friends at the park.
If you find a “target” you can start by sending a little smile and asking something like “How old is yours?” or “Do you guys come here a lot??
If the conversation seems to flow and you are enjoying it then don’t let the crucial moment pass you up! Ask to exchange numbers or social media and hint that you would love to do a play date sometime.
Its good for your little one to read and the library might just be the perfect place to make a new friend.
Libraries often have story times geared towards different age groups. Lap times for very young ones, story time for toddlers and preschool aged kids, and after school activities for older children.
This makes it sooooo convenient to narrow down your scope when you’re on the hunt.
Many cities, even small ones, often have activities organized for kids.
These are often not very well advertised but can be a treasure trove for getting the kids out on a budget and meeting new people.
And bonus, because they are not always well advertised, the people who are going to these types of events are generally quite outgoing and likely willing to make new friends (stereotype much?).
Mom’s clubs can be great resources for meeting lots of moms all at once.
It can be intimidating to go but trust me, just do it!
If you’re feeling shy go anyway and feel free to just sit back and soak things in. There is time to ease in and get to know people.
You might not click with everyone in a large group like this but the odds are in your favor of meeting at least a couple of other moms who are just your type.
There are two big national groups that come to mind:
When I first joined my local MOM’s Club I was intimidated. I had never heard of the organization. When I was told that there was paperwork and a fee to join I thought, “These moms seem pretty click-ish!” I just thought that this was a group of moms that were very selective about who they let into their group. I didn’t care because I needed friends! When I went it turned out everyone was super inclusive and they were required to do the paperwork and $20 annual fee by the organization. Not scary at all! I even ended up being on the presidency for a year.
Facebook Groups for Moms
If large national organizations don’t seem like your jam then hop on Facebook. Many moms are like you, looking for friendship. Some of these brave moms even start Facebook pages and groups for meeting local moms.
The benefit to these is that they can seem more personal and tight knit.
The downfall? They are less structured than the official groups so if they don’t have lots of members or an active admin they can fizzle out.
Another place to check out is Meetup.com This is a site dedicated to meetups. I honestly haven’t had much luck with this site as I have lived in smaller cities but if you live in a larger city this could be a good win for you.
Apps for Meeting Moms
Did you know there are Tinder-like apps for meeting mom friends!?!
This is another one that I’ve tried without much luck but like I said, we’ve tended to live in rural areas. If you live in a big city this could be a fun thing to try out.
A quick search brings up these apps:
Sports & Dance Classes
Are your kids a little older?
Get them into some sports, dance, swimming, art, karate classes, whatever! Just get them in a class or two and you are sure to meet some of the other moms wallflowering it up who have kids with similar ages and interests.
Your kids will be active and happy. You might just score yourself a little free time while they are in class. And of course you can interact with the other moms should you so choose.
Another way to make new mom friends is to volunteer. Not only do you score some brownie points but it can be a great way to find other moms who care.
Possible places to volunteer are at your kids school, local parks, hospitals and nursing homes.
Go to Church
If you are at all religious then find yourself a local church. They can provide a great community and the people you meet there will probably have similar values.
Churches also tend to do lots of activities and community outreach and might just prove to be the perfect place to gain that social interaction that you have been oh so desperately craving.
Chase Your Personal Interests
All of the earlier suggestions are very kid oriented but sometimes you need some pure adult only time or your schedule simply doesn’t work with daytime activities.
Don’t sweat it…or maybe do. Join a gym and go to some group classes if they offer any. If you go consistently you’ll meet the regulars and start to get to know them.
You can also join reading groups, knitting circles, running groups, weekly dancing venues, etc.
The possibilities are endless but there are groups for all sorts of interests if you’re willing to put in the work to find them.
Where are your favorite places to meet mom friends. If I’ve missed somewhere let me know and don’t forget to subscribe to be entered for a chance to win my Bestie Box!